Have you ever met someone who was egotistical, arrogant, self-absorbed, or a know-it-all? I bet you have. As an online book coach, such people seem to find me. And they’re no fun to be around. They’re so full of pride they make you want to run. Pride is the ultimate relationship killer, and most people can see right through it.
But that’s not you. Maybe you have many friendships but struggle to feel a true connection with any of them, perhaps because you’re afraid to show the real you. We can be so concerned with our reputation that we’re willing to present a false, phony self to hide the real person behind the “put together” image.
I’m not here to judge because I’ve done that very thing myself. I struggled to lose my own pride and presenting the real me to people. It wasn’t until I started writing and became a non-fiction book coach that I was able to confront my pride issues and help my writers let go of their own. Writing a book requires that you shuck off your pride and forget about what others think to release the story within.
“There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth: not going all the way, and not starting.
You Don’t Need Permission
Maybe you don’t want to step on any toes, or you’re concerned about what others will think of you. Guess what? You can forget about other people right now and do what you know is right. Now is not the time to be concerned about what people will think about you. That’s just your pride holding you back from presenting the real you.
You don’t need anyone’s permission to write your book. You don’t need to worry about pleasing or displeasing anyone because your focus will be on your audience and offering them hope and help. You’ll be radar-locked on helping those who need you, and everyone else can fall by the wayside. What they think about what you’re doing isn’t your concern. What you know as truth is what matters.
The good news is that time is on your side. It’s going to take you a year to write your book manuscript, which means you have a year to get comfortable with your material.
While you’re working on your book, your book is working on you, and it will take time for your book to reveal itself.
If your material is sensitive, it’s a strong advantage to be in one of my Executive Group Coaching classes because you get a big boost from the other group members. The group operates like a Mastermind, and it’s a safe place to share your story. The other members will help you get comfortable telling your story and sharing your message. You’ll probably need regular validation and support to be this vulnerable; it’s hard to go from never talking about something to opening your heart wide. Not to worry. The group will give you the practice you need and will nurture you through the process.